Now this has always bothered me a bit. How does a boyfriend that is into femdom big time introduce his girlfriend who is used to being the submissive one into being the dominate one?

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I find clubs to be some of the great equalizers. They can be difficult to find, but poke around CL or the "sleazy" papers in your area. There's usually a few ads. Check the place out on your own, first, though.

The way I got my wife into the switch role was to introduce her to a wonderful domme friend of mine. It started out with conversations, and after a few days of talking and getting her curious, she gave the M role a shot.

Since then, we've explored even more, and continue to learn about one another with one another.

Friends are the best gateway ever.

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If she has a high enough sex drive, you can just tell her what you're into and eventually she will be forced to take the lead if she wants to be satisfied. If she has a lower sex drive, you should find an erotic story with femdom in it and tell her you want to act it out. Read aloud the things that happen in the story and slowly have her copy the actions, making sure to tell her how much you enjoy it and what a great job she is doing. Do this multiple times, but not in a row, with a story that is fairly tame and eventually she will get used to it. Then introduce her to another story with slightly stronger content, again making sure to provide ample encouragement. After a while you should ask her to begin improvising things, or ask her to write out a story of her own. Remember not to rush through the process of making her more dominant, and remember to ask her about what things interest her sexually and act out her fantasies as reciprocation. Most importantly, you should remember that most women prefer to be the submissive party during sex and might even get bored if she is forced to do all the work, or consider the entire event foreplay until you take control again.

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