Topic: am i a coward for not wanting to give birth?

Anonymous b3bc50804ebcb5a64b5350ab26434403 started this discussion 3 months (2008-09-05 01:18:09 UTC) ago:

i am female, obviously, and i am repelled and almost disgusted by the idea of me giving birth and the lasting effects of it. all my friends can't wait to "pop one out" and i find the whole process of being pregnant, sick and fat, giving birth (i do not want my vagina stretched to the size of a melon!), possible post-partum depression, having saggy tits, stretchmarks and the works, afterward. to my selfish mind, all that does not outweigh the benefits an actual child will bring. i am a coward, right?

Anonymous ec0bbe83e23638967f21bb9b74a35843 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 01:21:25 UTC) ago, 3 minutes later (#57,565):

You seem sensible to me. Pregnant women disgust me. Especially if they are young and hot; it's like they're destroying their bodies. I can't wait to be able to "grow" lolis!

Anonymous 305b8bb97bddfaa0aec56938def7d0ef replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 01:24:50 UTC) ago, 3 minutes later (#57,567):

Not really, a bunch of my female friends are like that too. Not every girl has to be obsessed with motherhood, just like not every guy has to be a sports-obsessed chunkhead. All just personal choices, not anything particularly weird.

Anonymous d39cdab965cea4a53eea3372c4a5af59 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 01:42:40 UTC) ago, 18 minutes later (#57,569):

Don't get knocked up then. Whenever I see pregnant women I feel disgusted somewhat..

Anonymous 81a3595e20fb480064a3d9e0891ca181 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 04:17:31 UTC) ago, 3 hours later (#57,595):

Aiding to the population doesn't really help anyone out, anyways. :|

Anonymous 1c5f97ffbcfaae7588e4014a9d369b0b replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:09:22 UTC) ago, 52 minutes later (#57,607):

Pregnant women or women who have been pregnant are physically repulsive to me.

Anonymous 2b1c09802283944d944ea77af37b543a replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 06:51:35 UTC) ago, 2 hours later (#57,636):

@57,595

> Aiding to the population doesn't really help anyone out, anyways. :|

I know what you mean. One more baby won't hurt anyone huh? It's my right to have a baby, huh?

Giving birth or taking care of a baby is a default biological purpose, so you might get urges. Saying "no" because you're afraid of the pain is a half of a yes. You might feel culpability for not obeying to your biological urges, but that's ok because they are just desires, nothing essential right. But as you grow older, unless you go to a monastary you'll see that everyone around you is getting babies (unless some kind of overpopulation measure is taken by then) and you'll want one of your own too.

Anonymous 81a3595e20fb480064a3d9e0891ca181 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 07:03:21 UTC) ago, 12 minutes later (#57,637):

@57,636

samefag here… Can't say you are wrong. I haven't been there, yet. Very interesting. I have always not wanted kids all that much. It seems like too heavy of a responsibility, and it seems like: who am I to want to bring a new life into this world that I barely understand myself? I also think I would be a completely incompetent parent. I wonder if that whole feeling will change for me as I get older. I still think adding to the population isn't very helpful. Not that you have emotional control over such things. ;)

Anonymous 7c9deadfc8ca0bcf8ee27d472aaa16de replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 07:21:36 UTC) ago, 18 minutes later (#57,639):

I completly agree with you. I'm also female and the thought of getting pregnant is something I don't want.

Anonymous 67b4be354f08e80941361b849997e82d replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 17:15:46 UTC) ago, 10 hours later (#57,713):

@57,639

Oh you will want to get pregnant. It just takes time. It's as inevitable as me being attracted to women or you to men.

Anonymous f82fe29c83e18ab005c44a08e25f0b5c replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 19:22:15 UTC) ago, 2 hours later (#57,728):

Another women here and yet another one who's disgusted by the thought of getting pregnant.

Anonymous ec0bbe83e23638967f21bb9b74a35843 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 19:30:00 UTC) ago, 8 minutes later (#57,731):

@57,728

> Another women here

Die.

Anonymous e7dec5833b0765cbd953bf1eabda1967 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 19:56:15 UTC) ago, 26 minutes later (#57,738):

@57,713

> It's as inevitable as me being attracted to women or you to men.

Attraction is by no means "inevitable" for anyone. There are huge chunks of the population, homosexuals, pedophiles, etc., that don't belong to your concept of "normalcy". Some girls just don't like the idea of becoming pregnant, and there's absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal about it.

Anonymous 67b4be354f08e80941361b849997e82d replied with this 3 months (2008-09-06 01:44:17 UTC) ago, 6 hours later (#57,819):

@57,738

Chill out on the "political correctness" speech. You know what I mean, don't over-analyze my sentence or assume my views from them. Of course there's nothing wrong it, but most women are going to want a baby at some point; it's a biological urge.

Anonymous 88b0ccdd159864d0f0f64485c41bcba1 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-06 11:08:39 UTC) ago, 9 hours later (#57,905):

@57,819

But men have the same biological urge to reproduce. So why don't most men leave their partner, when she is too old to give birth? Yes, some do, but it's not the majority. Instincts are one influence under thousands.

Anonymous 81a3595e20fb480064a3d9e0891ca181 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-06 22:28:21 UTC) ago, 11 hours later (#58,006):

@57,905

Societal standards around here say that intentionally making someone an old widow is incorrect behavior.

Anonymous 67b4be354f08e80941361b849997e82d replied with this 3 months (2008-09-07 01:39:26 UTC) ago, 3 hours later (#58,065):

@58,006

And then you can say that societal standards say that you must make babies, on top of your biological urges.

Anonymous 81a3595e20fb480064a3d9e0891ca181 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-07 02:58:33 UTC) ago, 1 hour later (#58,085):

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Topic: am i a coward for not wanting to give birth?