Anonymous 0ae88303468b1cac626191351ee288e8 started this discussion 3 months (2008-09-05 04:54:01 UTC) ago:
I am getting a bit concerned with the fact that I hardly got interested in girls up until the point I think I am ready for a relationship, my first one at that. Which is now when I am eighteen. I did have a couple of "school boy crushes" on a couple girls, but that was all they were really. I hardly ever think about or seem to want sex other then only wanting it just so I don't have to die a virgin or having children of my own. This is really concerning me, because I am beginning to think my sex drive never developed or if puberty never really hit me or hit me extremely late. Then again this might just be because I haven't had my "first time" yet. What does AnonTalk think about this? I am also worried that if I do not have a developed sex drive, I might be barren of sperm.
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Anonymous 7d9f922eede44b658b3bff7bd7d47e1e replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:10:05 UTC) ago, 16 minutes later (#57,608):
It might just mean that you are asexual or mostly asexual.
Anonymous 0ae88303468b1cac626191351ee288e8 (OP) replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:13:38 UTC) ago, 4 minutes later (#57,610):
@57,608Well I seem to be more interested in getting married then having sex. Does this count as being asexual? Yes, I realize asexual means without sex. Plus the only time I tend to get a "boner" is whenever I see a woman bound and gagged. But I have posted that here way too damn much.
Anonymous 3cf3c2537378e82df36f38b481b19cd9 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:14:41 UTC) ago, 1 minute later (#57,612):
yes it is.
Anonymous bcd6774ed1266c00fba7ddb2f034e358 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:25:28 UTC) ago, 11 minutes later (#57,619):
Sounds asexual to me. Consider it a blessing and a curse.
Anonymous 0ae88303468b1cac626191351ee288e8 (OP) replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:28:59 UTC) ago, 4 minutes later (#57,620):
@57,619How would it be a blessing and how would it be a curse? Also could I possibly be asexual until I do have my "first time?" Because someone here said that once I do, I rather want to have more sex or not to have it all together.
Anonymous bcd6774ed1266c00fba7ddb2f034e358 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:34:50 UTC) ago, 6 minutes later (#57,622):
Blessing because you don't waste time on girls and sex. You also don't waste money.
Curse because you might not ever truly experience great sex or great girls.
Anonymous 0ae88303468b1cac626191351ee288e8 (OP) replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 05:53:15 UTC) ago, 18 minutes later (#57,624):
@57,622And if I experience my "first time" and I do want more. I am afraid of becoming someone who is completely addicted to sex, and sex would consume me.
Anonymous 350f0072a94d6380429a233d6faa1623 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 06:07:59 UTC) ago, 15 minutes later (#57,628):
@57,624Shit, you better stop living then, just in case something goes wrong.
You're paranoid, put a sock in it.
Anonymous 0cffc00f535b1992adcd88513e808bbc replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 06:49:35 UTC) ago, 42 minutes later (#57,635):
It's possible. That is, when you loose your virginity, your desire for sex might kick up a notch. I had my "first time" when I was 17, and it definitely changed that part of me, for good. Given, I was still sexually, idono, wanting, I guess, since I was very young. I never looked toward sex as a chore. Anyhow, I've known other guys that have this same issue, so you're not alone. On the other side of the fence, here, I can tell you sexual normality is not exceptionally awesome, but it definitely isn't that bad either. Sex is a part of a relationship, and it helps strengthen bonds between people. That is the plus. It can also drive you to waste time and effort perusing stupid shit when you're horny. That's the downside. So, just don't worry about it, and have fun being you, whoever that is.
Anonymous 0ae88303468b1cac626191351ee288e8 (OP) replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 07:23:11 UTC) ago, 34 minutes later (#57,640):
@57,635So it's not because of an undeveloped sex drive?
Anonymous 0cffc00f535b1992adcd88513e808bbc replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 07:28:34 UTC) ago, 5 minutes later (#57,642):
@57,640A bet it's just a certain balance of hormones. Some people might call that an imbalance. Some people might call that a personality. You can talk to a normal doctor about this, if it really bugs you. The main dude I knew that had this issue didn't really care that he was mostly asexual. It's up to you.
Anonymous 0cffc00f535b1992adcd88513e808bbc replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 07:29:59 UTC) ago, 1 minute later (#57,643):
@57,640And again, I always liked sex. I just liked it MORE afterwards. Although, lately, masturbation is becoming more of a chore for me. I would rather have sex or nothing, at times.
Anonymous 0ae88303468b1cac626191351ee288e8 (OP) replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 07:45:57 UTC) ago, 16 minutes later (#57,645):
@57,642I'm just scared I'll never have kids or a wife someday.
Like this thread said, sex is apart of a relationship right?
Anonymous 0cffc00f535b1992adcd88513e808bbc replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 09:10:48 UTC) ago, 1 hour later (#57,653):
@57,645Well, I was the one that said that also, and I'm just another person, too. Not the end all on advice, hah. I think you are too worried about what will turn out. Why is it so important to you to have a wife and kids? Do you want that, or do you feel like you are expected to have that? I'm around your age and I don't consider either important. I would be happy with just a "soulmate" or whatnot. Just someone that I understand and can rely on when things get tough.
Anonymous b7b9905c8c283ab82bab4ff2909e4394 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 12:32:49 UTC) ago, 3 hours later (#57,670):
Please stop using quotation marks like that OP…
Anonymous 2349625e03edea1bce22a3506b1a72a0 replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 17:03:29 UTC) ago, 5 hours later (#57,710):
When you fall in love you'll want to make love to that person, I bet.
I managed to repress my sexuality for years by being confused about bisexuality - rarely masturbated or thought about it. I've since had great sex with both men and women.
Since you've not had sex yet I wouldn't worry about it. Wait until you fall in love or find someone that you respect/find attractive.
Anonymous 5eb9716deb7e28486b39c888dd22a14c replied with this 3 months (2008-09-05 21:47:13 UTC) ago, 5 hours later (#57,766):
I think you should fap more OP. Just do it more and more. The more you do it the more you want.
Don't worry, you will never be addicted. I think also one of the reasons you don't really get turned on is because you're afraid to become addicted.
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