I met a girl through a friend. We hung out with said friend and some others a couple times. On the second time she asks me if I'm gay or straight (I guess I act bit gay… but most people don't seem to think I'm gay by appearance). I say that I'm not sure (which is the truth, although I'm tending towards gay I think), and she offers to help me find out. I didn't really get what I now think the meaning of that was. So I just said something like "what are you gonna do, line up some boys and girls and let me see who I like?" and laughed about it and she did too.

Then yesterday she went to some party and invited me with the same crowd but I don't like parties much so I declined the invitation, and when I woke up she had texted me something along the lines of "you're sweet, any girl (or boy) would be lucky to have you". I guess she was drunk and she sent a further text the next day saying she sent me something but she doesn't remember what, and she hopes it wasn't offensive.

I guess it doesn't matter much because she'll quickly get over me when it become apparent that I'm a complete social recluse and pretty much gay, but do you think she has a crush on me? I'd be surprised if so because of the type of personality I have, although the evidence seems pretty strong…

She's a fun girl and I'd still like her to be my friend.

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Just go for it man. The truth comes out in a drunk text.

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truth.

Though I think she may think of you as a challenge. You've kind of pointed out that you're not interested in her, so she's chasing after you. If she's attractive at all, I say go for it just for a learning experience. Then you may know what you're attracted to. She's pointed out she wants to help you find out, its pretty clear she wants to.

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Well I'm not that certain that my current interpretation of what she said is accurate. It looks like it now, but now its out of context so who knows… And I'm not normally that slow to not get what she meant, I don't think.

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go after he too and find out if she likes you, then you can enjoy both guys and girls

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The honest answer to this question is: no.

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Being drunk doesn't change your inner feelings, it just releases your inhibitions. She most likely meant what she said.

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Sucks that the only person arguing no doesn't give any reasons. Feel much less balanced :(

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Go with it. She'll make you straight.

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You're not gay or straight, you're just a teen that's horny. A lot of people feel funny in social situations too because they worry about what people might think of them.

She sounds into you in a good way. I'd invite her out to hang out for an afternoon. Do something together that involves some fun or shopping followed maybe by lying in the park talking. Don't go to the cinema. It's awkward and not fun. It won't be memorable either.

Don't get nervous about it, just treat it as 'going out for the afternoon with a friend'. That's all it is. If you find that you end up looking at each other and the conversation suddenly stops and there is that awkward pause, just keep looking at her (that is if you have been getting on and are having a bit of a laugh). She'll come to you with those sexy come to me eyes you have (she did say anyone would be lucky to have you).

If I could only go back in time and give me all this info when I was a teen I'd be laughing. I'd be an absolute man-whore.

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