this is an honest question. i've been thinking about cheating on my girlfriend. first off, i am a girl. secondly, my girlfriend lives a good 2000+ away from me. we talk everyday and if i'm five minutes late calling her, she gets pissed at me. she makes me feel like shit if i hang out with my friends. she's obsessed with this one guy she met after a show she went to and makes it seem like she'd rather be with him and not me.

here's where it gets weird. i've let her fap on the phone and moan his name. i even said that the guy was good looking and talented. either way, i let her do that and now that's all she wants to do. hell, i even moaned his name when we fapped just so it would make her happy. then she has done things like wanting to be with other people and has suceeded since i broke up with her after the second time she got a "crush" on this one bitch who looks like the ugly version of me. then i took her back. then she almost broke up with me because some guy was like "yo, wanna chill?" and i declined. note the declined part, please since it seems she can't understand that.

but now it's like. i feel lonely. i really do. i haven't had sex in over a year. fapping can only do so much. and i try not to look at other people, but it just happens. i have always been faithful, even in the most shittiest of relationships. but those other relationships, i was never lonely. i always had them near. i just. i don't.

i want your advice, anon. help a girl out.

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OP I honestly don't think you should cheat I think you should just break up with this girl, she sounds a bit controlling and her interest appears to keep wandering too.
Also by living miles away from each other you probably don't get much physical contact, you might benefit better in a relationship with someone living close to you who you can see face to face daily if you need it. Physical contact with someone is a very important part of a relationship in my opinion and I don't just mean sex, I mean cuddling and kissing and just having the persons presence there to make you feel safe secure and wanted.

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Cheat. Dump the bitch. If your relationship isn't 100% perfect and irreplaceable, there is no reason to endure long distance.

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I don't think you should cheat…

But that is only because I think you two should break up and see other people, your relationship doesnt sound too healthy

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i have thought about breaking up with her. a lot, surprisingly. i love her though, more than anything or anyone i have ever been with. she still makes me happy when she's not obsessing over this guy. she can be controlling. she doesn't want me to go to a concert because i had a crush on a band member for a while. she's afraid i'm going to cheat, even though, she was the one who basically cheated on me. i will admit, that given the chance, i would sleep with band member. but i'd feel guilty.

it's like. i love her. but i don't want to hurt her and i don't want to leave her. it's just hard because of the distance. i miss cuddling. i miss kissing her. i miss everything, tbh. it's really hard. it really is.

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It's really not healthy and I know that. I've come to terms that it is a bit messed up. But I also love her. According to her family though, I am the controlling one. Not her. We're both guilty of the same things. Like I get jealous, but what person wouldn't when you don't even get to see them?

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why is she so far away? Will she be moving back soon or vice versa?

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I kinda fell for her when I went to where she is for a concert. She doesn't have the money to move and neither do I so we were going to wait until one of us has enough to move.

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@67,453

> if i'm five minutes late calling her, she gets pissed at me.
> she makes me feel like shit if i hang out with my friends.
> she's obsessed with this one guy she met after a show she went to and makes it seem like she'd rather be with him and not me.

OP I know this will sound cliched, but if she is treating you this way surely she can't feel the same way about you as you do about her?
You obviously care very much for her but she appears to be quite controlling and your needs in this relationship aren't being fulfilled,
a break up appears to me to be in the best because you both appear to want to go after others.

I can't force you to see my perspective but this is my opinion
A break up seems the best solution in this situation

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@67,453

You say you don't like the fact she doesn't want you to go to a concert because she's afraid you're going to cheat, even though she has. Yet, you freely admit that you want to/would cheat. Obviously she is right in suspecting you will cheat, so stop making it seem like you're so innocent with that. Just because you haven't done it yet, doesn't mean she can't be suspicious or not want you to be put in situations where you could cheat(which you would).

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