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Anonymous 73f6439ee0f0b95f8697625914827521 started this discussion 2 months (2008-10-11 17:00:02 UTC) ago:
Ok socializing isn't one of my strongest points, but when forced into a corner I can do it no problem. I have this fear that everyone hates me and talks behind my back. Now, I have this other problem where instead of socializing, I will just go into my room and browse. I dunno how long I've had this problem, but it is starting to effect my self esteem. I know I am not cool or anything, but at one point in my life I had many friends who enjoyed my company. I think something happened during this period in time, but I am not really sure what. Now that I have moved away from home and now in college, I feel that my loneliness has increased and is starting to effect me physically. I can no longer sleep at the times I usually do. Yesterday, I slept for 20 hours and now I am starting to get scared.
P.S. Does anyone get this feeling that people annoy you?
HALP.
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Anonymous c995c613937454e91a33f3d96be46bdd replied with this 2 months (2008-10-11 17:50:26 UTC) ago, 50 minutes later (#68,576):
You are in the exact same boat that I am - I slept for 14 hours the other day, and I can't help but feel it's totally ridiculous. I kind of avoid telling anyone because people never understand; I can quite happily entertain myself in my room all day with just the internet and the TV. I mean, I can socialize when I want to, and pretty well, it's just that I'm not particularly a fan of people, they are flawed and annoying. Maybe my expectations are too high. But I make an effort to spend at least half an hour a day talking to someone. It's kind of frustrating though, when you feel you should have this drive to want to be around people but you simply don't. Unless you're lonely or whatever, I don't think it's too much of a problem. Me, personally, I'm not. But maybe you should just try and be more social and light-hearted.
Anonymous f97fbcbf0b8bb668485998700b002da7 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-11 18:08:53 UTC) ago, 18 minutes later (#68,583):
Ok, guys… now listen. You are nerds. Negate is futile. Just accept this fact and get a life where nobody can get a life. You are immortal, remember? So that this is the plan: get a fuckin' work and work on it. No matter what the work is. When you are cool enough to say "Ok, people, I'm tired tonight", you are even cool enough to exit, go to the pub and have a beer. Ask a lady what time is it, and nail her. Or at least talk to her and introduce yourself.
Anonymous 217ef9e99fcea55204d1f69c63356b45 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-11 18:19:42 UTC) ago, 11 minutes later (#68,587):
@68,583> Ask a lady what time is it, and nail herwhat, like straight after?
and i see your point. But i don't agree. i'm in same position as the two above, but im rather happy with how i live my life, and i have to be. Until im old enough to have more responsability and be independant.
Anonymous 03f4825ebcacc4e5893b420e97170e5b replied with this 2 months (2008-10-11 19:12:30 UTC) ago, 53 minutes later (#68,599):
> Now, I have this other problem where instead of socializing, I will just go into my room and browse.
Don't. It's an addiction cycle and you'll have to break it someday, so it might as well be now.
> I have this fear that everyone hates me and talks behind my back.
Ask yourself why. What gives you the impession everyone thinks you're an asshole? Why would they think that?
> Does anyone get this feeling that people annoy you?
I think might actually be your main reason for either not socializing or thinking that everyone hates you.
Anonymous 4a2679b0def7a5a526634ab33c526505 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-11 21:54:00 UTC) ago, 3 hours later (#68,646):
One reason might be that your standards for human behavior are too high. Because of this, you are less likely to want to have social interactions with other people because they might waste your time with inane and boring conversation. To fix this problem, you need to lower your standards by hanging out with those people. More often than not, you'll find that people who appear to be one-dimensional are actually quite interesting. I know a lot of people who seem to be complete idiots at first glance, but actually turn out to be good friends later on. That's not to say that you'll inevitably find those barely self-aware morons out there.
If you are embarrassed or worried that people talk behind your back, the only thing you can do is ignore it. There isn't a trick or quick solution to get over what people might think of you. You're just going to have to let your worries go and realize that it means nothing in the end. Avoid putting on an act for people, just drop your inhibitions and go for it.
Anonymous 7ebb0b49994dbe37c2ef1757e36ed040 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-12 02:25:53 UTC) ago, 5 hours later (#68,719):
I just want to point out the sleep issue
You are sleeping for 14 or 20 hours because you have a bad fitness system going on. Spending all that time idle infront of the computer is probably why (As opposed to going out, walking around, running around with friends)
Go run for an hour, and your sleep cycle will be back to normal.
I know its hypocritical, but I suffer the same problem…I just don't have enough time to do a proper 1 hour workout…if I can get my work done today, I might give it a shot
Anonymous a49763d143710e92149c43417c66faec replied with this 2 months (2008-10-12 07:57:51 UTC) ago, 6 hours later (#68,846):
OP, are you me posting subconciously?
No seriously, are you?
Cause that's eerily similar to what I'm doing.
Anonymous 53eb3632d23f27e25da93b46c279ac64 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 12:50:10 UTC) ago, 1 day later (#69,254):
I have major trust issues. I can barely trust anyone anymore, and with pretty good reason. Too many weasels have let me down over the years, I care not to allow it to happen much further. I'm gradually getting used to it. I just remind myself that the consequences of being betrayed are typically worse than anything I would just accomplish all on my own.
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