Ok, so I've read all the threads urging cave-dwelling introverts like myself to go out, so I have decided to do just that. The problem is that all my friends are busy this weekend. So what do I do? I want to go somewhere by myself and meet some new people in the process. This outing is primarily for social purposes (if I meet some girls that I can hit on, that would be nice, but I'm not particular). So, where do I go? Any serious advice would be appreciated.

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If you think you're going to have problems, wait until you can get a friend to go with you somewhere. It can be extremely uncomfortable to be going out by yourself when your social skills aren't the greatest. How do you want to meet people? Do you want to meet absolute strangers, strangers with similar interests, or friends of friends?

If you want to meet absolute strangers, you could go to practically any place. Look for festivals, social events, open markets, and the like around your area. Go to those places and try to strike up conversation with people. Clubs and bars might be other places to try if you're old enough. I heard a library is also good, but I don't know how that works.

If you want to meet strangers with similar interests, join a club or organization. If you are in any kind of school, chances are that they provide students clubs you can join. Depending on your tastes, you could try an Anime club, a martial arts studio, a painting seminar, etc… You'll have a much easier time meeting people this way since you'll already have something in common.

If you want to meet friends of friends, organize an outing on a weekend. Get everyone to go bowling, party, or other social event. Tell your friends to invite their friends. Movies aren't a particularly good choice since you'll have little opportunity to talk to each other unless you go do something else afterward like dinner.

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Thanks for your advice. My social skills are not that great, but the whole reason that I wanted to go out by myself is so that I can gain a sense of independence. My friends are good people, but it would be nice to know that I'm not completely dependent on them and can be social when I'm by myself.

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I'm in a similar situation as well. I would go with my second suggestion, go join a club or organization. Everyone already has something in common, so you'll automatically have something to talk about. If you want to get to know a person better, it isn't hard to move the conversation onto other things. Maybe invite that person out to lunch after the session or meeting.

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Are there any speed dating clubs around? You get to meet people, if you don't like them you never have to speak to them again PLUS there's lots of depressed women needing sex. At least that'cs what ive been told.

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Join a club for amateur drama and acting and shit. It'll boost your confidence and at the same time you'll meet lots of fun and loud people. They'll most likely to be most fun and they're all very confident that they'll usually just come up to you and talk to you. :D

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