This would probably be better being answered by someone a little more mature.

I've been friends with this bloke since about 2003, we started a course and met each other through the school.
I do consider him to be 'a bit of a bad influence'.
We only just recently got back in contact since I have moved states and I was last nearby in 2003 but still remained on the phone every so often.

Since i've known him for this length of time & i've moved states not knowing too many people here, I'm trying to put some ettiquete into him and not being so bogan when were out having a few beers.

We used to smoke a lot of marijuana with each other back in our earlier days, I was 18 or so at the time and stopped smoking when I was 20-21. He ended up in a psych-ward (when i was late 18) I was quite surprised by it he trashed his bedroom and ripped the timber from the front of his house.

Lately and since I've moved states I took up a vacant room in the sharehouse he's in and recently moved, I could tell he was falling into a depression hole. Last weekend we went out for a few drinks and I came to the point where he started getting the depressed thought off his chest and he was carrying on quite loud in the outside smoking area I was telling him to keep his voice down and he was shouting about an ex girlfriend it came to a point where the bar staff kept swinging past to collect the empty glasses (since the place is very popular) and shortly the crowd just moved away since he was shouting. It got to the point where I stopped and started looking around at the crowd like 'cmon guys give us a hand will you' and people moved in closure.

This weekend we were out and had a few more drinks it came to the point again he started having a go at me, i'm quite stokier than he is and he started going on towards me (we had been drinking wild turkey), it took me ages trying to chill him out and when I was walking back to my place I stopped the oppotunity for him to stay at my place and he drove back to his place drunk. I wasn't happy since he said you are the puppet with the female since I'm good looking (not that i like to say), and I didn't quite like hearing that if I'm going to be expected 'talking to the girls for him to try his luck'.

I'm abit unsure about this friendship now, I got home last night thinking well time to say see you later to this one. I'm now sorting him out he doesn't have any career goals & can easily go through a carton in just over a week which i'm against since I don't drink 1 or 2 every night.

I've always been dedicated in working out my career goals and what I'll be doing after each job when I start and apply, I know my industry well and sticking to that.

I would like to hear what you have to say on this guy and ask me questions, he's a bit of a bogan that's fallen down. I've been trying to teach him some ettiquete/manners and how to behave in a classey bar instead of using the f word every second sentance & behaving like an adult not so much like a kid at 29.

Thanks.

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Ditch him, I had an uncle like that and he was a total burden on my family. Eventually he went away somewhere for a while and we never let him back. He isn't your problem what so ever, it's definitely worth moving house to get away from him.

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I took up the spare room in his sharehouse when I moved state & only recently moved into my new appartment.

Last night when I got home I was thinking 'see you later' but I left that today when I was sober to think through it.
The way he was carrying on the way back to his car was 'i'm above the law blah blah' I thought was a bit much, he wanted tallyho papers when he was having a go at me when he started an argument when we were getting some take away.

It wasn't until he realised whilst in that argument I just starred back at him and spoke calm and put things in a clearer less drunk perspective he thought shit he's actually a lot stockier than I am and he even said in a weak way, i know your stokier than I am.

When he had calmed down I said now you can have a tallyho paper since you have changed your behaviour.

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Cut him off. It's like that thing about how once a dog bites a child or anyone you have to kill it. Once he wants to have a go at you, cut him off. One day he will get more drunk, or obsessed with fighting you and might pull a knife or god knows what. Bail on that friendship asap.

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Get out of the friendship. He is NOT your responsibility and WILL drag you down. Been there, done that. Friends with a guy for 2-3 years, lived with him and all - in the end he refused to change and it fucked with my head. I cut him off and have never looked back.

If you can't accept him for who he is (without changing him), and you hate who he is, get rid of him. Do it.

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If you want to be nice about it, confront him about his problem and strongly suggest he get his act together. This will (hopefully) do one of two things: He'll get pissed off at you and you no longer have to worry about him as a friend, or, he will clean himself up. Win/Win, especially if he does both.

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