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Topic: Wise anons, I want to hook up with a man 15 years older than me.

Anonymous 2d26ce17faa7e897b31f764924da18f5 started this discussion 2 months (2008-10-13 07:56:28 UTC) ago:

But I can't have anyone, including my parents, find out. How can I do this? I'm 17.

Anonymous 832e75d36ba2bac8f30a3c7036a27b87 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 08:03:25 UTC) ago, 7 minutes later (#69,216):

Meet him in a park, or other outdoor (but still inconspicuous) place. Go to his place? Is he married? Because if he isn't then his place should be fine. Does he know you're planning this?

Anonymous 2d26ce17faa7e897b31f764924da18f5 (OP) replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 08:10:23 UTC) ago, 7 minutes later (#69,217):

He isn't married. I haven't even met him in real life so I'm almost more worried that he'll kill me than I am my parents and friends finding out.

Should I do it? I've never been really sexually intimate with anyone before. I don't think I want to have sex with him. It's harmless if we just met up, right? It's nobody's business but ours. God… I must be going crazy.

Anonymous abdffad4deedf185f8c54174eea4da02 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 08:15:19 UTC) ago, 5 minutes later (#69,220):

Don't do it. Could be a total freak. Talk with meeee I'm 17 and can prove it!

Anonymous 2d26ce17faa7e897b31f764924da18f5 (OP) replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 08:23:53 UTC) ago, 9 minutes later (#69,221):

LOL! How cute. But see, I'm totally into the older, wonderful men… And he's shown me pictures. And I know where he works.
My life is so boring. This could be the perfect thing, right? I mean, if he's a creepo I just won't go anywhere alone with him and end it there. My concern is whether or not he turns into a creepo once we're alone… What do I do then?

Anonymous 832e75d36ba2bac8f30a3c7036a27b87 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 08:25:46 UTC) ago, 2 minutes later (#69,222):

Well, I guess you'll never know anyone unless you eventually meet them. IRL I mean. If you decide to do that then meet him someplace public. Coffee house or juice bar or something. Someplace where he would be deterred from possible violence by the presence of other people. Talk with him, make an effort to be nice, then just leave. You don't HAVE to do anything physical with him. That can come later after you know him better. A sexless first date is a way to get to know him and find out whether he's cool to go further with or whether he's crazy. You can explain to him by internet that nothing will happen first time you meet (or not it's also cool to keep some mystery). If he has a serious problem with that then maybe he's not right for you. Of course you could meet him that first time and think 'Wow! He's great!' However public place is probably the way to go, in my opinion. How many times have you IM'ed him how long have you been conversing?

Anonymous 2d26ce17faa7e897b31f764924da18f5 (OP) replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 08:58:27 UTC) ago, 33 minutes later (#69,228):

Thanks so much for the help! Sounds good. We've only been talking for a day now but obviously I want to postpone the meeting until I know him better. He actually suggested we meet somewhere public for the first time and see where it takes us. If I decided to go through with it though, what is a foolproof plan that will prevent anyone from finding out? He wants to keep it private too.

Anonymous c8ca90a7ae8a61cbd93077963702fac3 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 09:02:35 UTC) ago, 4 minutes later (#69,229):

Don't fuck him, I know of some women who tried similar things when they were younger and invariably they've come to regret it. One of them is in a relationship with another guy now and having a child with him and the really the only thing keeping the father from killing that guy is that he wants to be there for her and the child.

You have plenty of time to fuck and plenty of guys around your age who I'm sure would if you wanted to with them. Stay away from much older men.

Anonymous 4cfc4370ea575cc39233f04eec711507 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 10:54:22 UTC) ago, 2 hours later (#69,234):

@69,221

How older? And just how wonderful???

Anonymous 9027d142efa4441afd33895c916c67a5 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 11:58:58 UTC) ago, 1 hour later (#69,237):

This is hilarious. Meeting this man would be a colossal mistake. He WILL rape you. Especially since he suggested meeting up so soon.

Do not do it or you will be raped.

Anonymous 3656149cc4753155af91eac1e915b7e3 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 12:31:46 UTC) ago, 33 minutes later (#69,246):

17 hmmm and he's 15 years old than you, he's 32 right?

I often walk past skate parks and see older drop kicks hanging around the younger ones and think 'What on earth is that person of his age doing hanging around a bunch of school kids?'.

I don't think its a too wise of a move, he seems so generous & loving right? Or has he been 'grooming' you?

I know with in my culture that someone 17 and someone 32 seeing one another wouldn't be looked at politely.

I'm guessing he's purely sexual, I admit when I was younger I would always think about the perfect partner or the perfect girlfriend, how ever as you grow your perspective changes when you become more experienced 17 - 20 you can still be a little bit naive.

My gut feeling says its not the best idea but if YOU decide its ok it wouldn't be looked at the right way by people surrounding you as you have figured out make it somewhere very populated & keep your address, school, work & full name quiet or even let him just know your first name. Stalkers aren't fun either.

They are my two cents.

Anonymous 2d26ce17faa7e897b31f764924da18f5 (OP) replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 15:59:02 UTC) ago, 3 hours later (#69,283):

Yeah, I guess you guys are right. But I'm not sure his intentions are to rape me. He's actually a police officer. LOL. So if anything bad happened, I could drag his ass straight to his place of employment and cause him to lose his job.

…AUGUHDGHSDC you guys! This is the one time in my life I will be living out a life long fantasy of being with a hot older guy in uniform. Won't I regret it when I'm full of wrinkle and sag if I don't do it? And I don't necessarily want to run around and hump boys my age, because they can't keep secrets and I don't want to be branded as a slut. Plus boys my age don't know what they're doing.

Anonymous cbae2c70469c7d134f7c42d32ea1ee62 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 20:25:39 UTC) ago, 4 hours later (#69,348):

Wait till your 18 unless your in a country where age of consent is 16 or 17.
Leave a well hidden note with who your going out with (incase you die, they'll find it while cleaning your room, or confide in a trusted friend)
Be a responsible adult and go for it.

Anonymous f9615543a0bdec70549e681e7ce18f20 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 21:31:50 UTC) ago, 1 hour later (#69,368):

Police officer gives him more of a mindset to think of himself as above the law watch yourself.

Anonymous f38abfcbf9ce10522a2328ad55d15681 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-13 21:39:28 UTC) ago, 8 minutes later (#69,379):

LOL, Enjoy your 32 year old. That dick is going to drop limp on you in a few years. Then he will need meds. And what fun is that? Speaking of your situation, I am 23, and I go out with a 17 year old. Totally mutual and stuff. Age gaps is not too wide. But would you let a 15 year old Dog mate with your 9 month old puppy? I thinks you are preoccupied with a section of your life that is lacking in stimulation. You may want to search your inner self a bit harder before you consider blowing your youth away on someone who is far more intellectual and controlling than you. Even if you say he is not a controlling type, don't forget he is 32 and will know how to manipulate you very well. Even if it involves you manipulating your self, he still wins. Don't do it. Just be a casual friend with him. On the other hand, if you are fat, ugly or anything similar that would cause others in your age range to reject you, then yea, I would rather see you happy with a 32 year old then alone and depressed. So factor in those 2 scenarios. Enjoy :)

Anonymous d658e522ea221fe328db1ee9596d6255 replied with this 2 months (2008-10-14 05:06:04 UTC) ago, 7 hours later (#69,578):

Forget it!

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