Greetings, Male Anon here.
I've been living with this girl for about a year now, we share an apartment. When we first met there was an instant attraction and I let her know how I felt about her, she told me she likes me too but isn't ready for a relationship. Her ex dumped her after 6 years, he cheated on her and it messed her up pretty bad. I know there isn't a whole lot I can do except be the best friend I can be until she manages to get over her past, but at the same time I can see that she is very lonely and it troubles me. I found allot of porn and dating sites in her browsing history and I occasionally see her text her friends with stuff like "I'm jealous that you have a guy and I don't". I'm worried that I've gotten myself too deep into her friend zone for her to even consider me as an option.

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Too late, bud. The ex didn't mess her up that bad, it's just convenient for her if you think that; that way she doesn't have to sack up and actually deny you. I'd suggest getting over it, otherwise you're just going to be hanging off of her forever wondering why she isn't head over heels for you.

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Hey mate I thought i'd share one of my stories with you how ever nothing to 'influence' you.

I was best/very good friends with a girl I used to live with when i first moved states. Other friends of mine used to say we look like a couple but we just can't get our acts together (after we had moved away from one another).
I came back from travelling one year and caught up with her, I bought her a few things and she attacked me when I was staying at a backpackers hostel since I didn't want to wait 5hours to go and stay at her place when I arrived in the city via bus.
That weekend we started to work things out and didn't go too smooth since I was naive and in experienced at the time to take the hint. Shortly after when I moved down there she had found another guy (i couldn't stand his attitude when I first met him) but still flirted with me giving me strong kisses on the cheeks behind this guys back that really started to get me going. It wasn't until she really started to fall for this guy she continued like this behind his back and I thought I was definately in but for her to hurry up and get rid of this guy. I was invited to go travelling with her and her hubby but I ended up saying after my friends of mine who weren't or didn't know her said to put her eyes right so I said you have a choice him or me. It wasn't long after that I thought enough is enough she's taken me for a ride & a year or 2 later I ran into her at a concert with her fella and she still gave me that 'i want you look'. If things don't end up working with her fella, and I run into her again since I let my contact with her drop down over a period I don't think i'll bother with her.

That was a downwood spiral. When you have the chance in a deep & meaningful with her and you've seen her gone through relationships and she may bring it up (previous relationship) say something like all you want is someone to just appreciate you or something her ex wasn't showing that she needed, and you've lived with her & learnt to get along well and trust living under the same roof which is a bonus. I wouldn't be able to stand meeting a bird and move in with her to learn she's messy as hell & leaves bottles of booze everywhere.

I once knew a bird who was quite attractive I was a bit of a brother for her saw her go through a few relationships and knew that all she wanted was to feel appreciated. Anyways mate I may have dribbled a bit here but sometimes its good to share anothers stories.

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re op: get her looking forward and not back, out and about and out of just hanging in the house ;)

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You sir have to be more assertive, you'll never out of the friendzone if you're just her friend. Become more than that and you'll suceed!

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http://www.anontalk.com/topic/13501

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