Hi there well I guess i've had a moment of clarity today.
I'm in an interesting phase of life at the moment i'm battling my fears and more entering the group.

I have a slight paranoia in groups but i've learnt to just laugh it off instead of over analysing a situation.
And comments I may hear I have just miscaught and taken the wrong way, hence laughing it off.

My last one is apparently 'my eyes' tend to worry people since when i'm feeling self concious or have something on the mind I don't just want to close my eyes I want to put them somewhere so i can balance out. Some times i don't feel too with it practically/realisticly and may walk around a bit with a cigarette and when I'm on my way in may give someone a funny look with out expecting it and think to myself 'come on stay with it'.
Trains I used to look around randomly now I just look out the window or read something in front of me or just pretend i'm having a nap. I'm still a bit self concious when people are 'in front'.

But meh, i'm keen on change i'm like this from bullies & been diagnosed with an epilepsy last year.

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I came down with social anxiety about 2 years ago, after going through a rough period with work & family.

It has been an interesting phase indeed. Although I am much better, I am still battling with my eyes. I believe it relates to what you're thinking about. You seem to be on the right path - choosing positive interpretations, not analysing anything, and just relaxing. Don't let your mind's focus drift into various thoughts - focus on what you are doing at that moment.

Best of luck to both of us.

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Hmm, i'm interested in what you mean really, I'm very cautious when I'm alone yet I often think people are talking about me a lot when I'm not there or if they look at me and start talking. Did you get diagnosed with something (OP) and what do you mean with your eyes? The way you look at people or stare at them or something? I get comments about my eyes often but I never understand what they mean. I'm interested in hearing from you.

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Wow, you guys are fucked, huh? It's great not really caring what other people are saying about me. I feel well-liked and am more or less completely comfortable around other people. It'll probably never be comfortable for you guys, only manageable at best. Too bad, because feeling comfortable in groups is a tremendous stepping stone to so many great things in life. Hopefully you will not be entirely miserable forever, okay? Good luck.

For srs though, see a therapist about it. It helped my ex-girlfriend enormously. You definitely can get better, especially with the help of a professional.

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