Topic: Question about when to call a girl.

Anonymous 997a4e09ae205e2da707df1ae892304e started this discussion 2 months (2008-07-05 02:46:17 UTC) ago:

So suppose you have been talking to this girl a little bit for a while, and there is some attraction there, and the feeling is mutual maybe even more than that, who am I to say though. Anyway we talk quite often over the internet, though recently it has come to my attention that she will not be around for about 3 weeks. Should I call her after like 2 weeks or something just to say hi and maybe set up some sort of date, or leave her be until she comes back?

Anonymous 12f7219693e238f7f1956d53317b6605 replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 02:50:04 UTC) ago, 4 minutes later (#30,508):

Is it possible to hang out with her before she leaves? If so, do it and kiss her as soon as possible. You never know when some guy might swoop out of nowhere and snatch her away from you.

Anonymous 997a4e09ae205e2da707df1ae892304e (OP) replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 02:53:24 UTC) ago, 3 minutes later (#30,509):

Alright, no she is already away, but I am really not worried about that at all, I just want to know if it would be appropriate to call her and just kinda chit chat for a bit and then maybe set up a date for when she is back.

Anonymous 12f7219693e238f7f1956d53317b6605 replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 03:18:56 UTC) ago, 26 minutes later (#30,514):

@30,509

Yes. That would make her know that you're definitely interested. Call her. And don't forget to tell us what happens.

Anonymous 8053ca4c406dff0ffdfe495c468b780b replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 19:37:15 UTC) ago, 16 hours later (#30,579):

Make sure that when you call her you don't sound like a pussy. Come straight out with it and make sure its very clear its a date.

Anonymous c31379c17286e37f35c5b35362abf469 replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 20:00:50 UTC) ago, 24 minutes later (#30,585):

@30,579

This seems a little too blunt to me. While you want to avoid the friend zone, you really should do that by flirting and making her interested in you rather than outright expressing interest in her.

Anonymous 90feb8ebdb15fe482867ccfaaf5a41fd replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 20:05:29 UTC) ago, 5 minutes later (#30,586):

So don't call then?

Anonymous 90feb8ebdb15fe482867ccfaaf5a41fd replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 20:06:28 UTC) ago, 59 seconds later (#30,587):

I mean I have flirted and created some attraction and I'm sure she at least like me a little. But should I call her in this situation, and should I send a text first or just straight call.

Anonymous 8053ca4c406dff0ffdfe495c468b780b replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 20:12:20 UTC) ago, 6 minutes later (#30,589):

Just call her man. If she isn't interested in you by now then you shouldn't continue wasting your time. You sound like you're in highschool so really nothing you do relationship wise will effect you much later in life. Being a coward like this isn't helping. Call her and ask her out, if she says no then fuck her and there are plenty of hungry sluts to make you feel better. If she says yes then congratz you're in a relationship which will last all of about a year if you're lucky and more if you two are truely serious about it and don't fuck up to hard.

Anonymous 90feb8ebdb15fe482867ccfaaf5a41fd replied with this 2 months (2008-07-05 20:31:58 UTC) ago, 20 minutes later (#30,595):

No, she is interested, I just want to keep it that way and I'm not sure if calling her while she is away will help or hurt. I think I am just gonna text her and see if she is busy, and if not tell her to call me, in like a week or two.

Anonymous c474643ac9b988c47b6cd2784ef89a40 replied with this 2 months (2008-07-07 01:21:58 UTC) ago, 1 day later (#30,803):

idiot! The longer you wait the more chances she has of forgetting you. Call her as soon as possible. Keep yourself fresh in her mind. Give her a chance to call you back though. If she calls you then you know she is yours. If you call too much without her reciprocating then you've lost it. She has to think about you and miss you enough that she calls you. But call first and have a good convo and wait for her to call back. Shit don't wait 2 weeks. That's to long. I say call tonight or tomorrow night. Night(before she goes to bed) or early morning(when she wakes up) is good. But don't overdo it. Girls are finicky. Like squirrels.

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Topic: Question about when to call a girl.